Ivan Sammy's World

Always Say Less Than Is necessary

Mon, 14 Jul 2008 19:50:20 GMT

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. even if you’re saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinx-like. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. the more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

Power is in many ways a game of appearances, and when you say less than necessary, you inevitably appear greater and more powerful than you are. Your silence will make other people uncomfortable. Humans are machines of interpretation and explanation; they have to know what you are thinking. When you carefully control what you reveal, they cannot pierce your intentions or your meaning.

Your short answers and silences will put them on the defensive, and they will jump in nervously fulfilling the silence with all kinds of comments that will reveal valuable information about them and their weaknesses. they will leave a meeting with you feeling as if they have been robbed, and they will go home and ponder your every word. this extra attention to your brief comments will only add to your power.

Oysters open completely when the moon is full; and when the crab sees one one it throws a piece of stone or seaweed into it and the oyster cannot close again so that it serves the crab for meat. Such is the fate of him who opens his mouth too much and thereby puts himself at the mercy of the listener. (Leonardo DA Vinci, 1452-1519).

Lesson to learn:

Once the words are out , you cannot take them back. Keep them under control. Be Particularly careful with sarcasm: The momentary satisfaction you gain with your biting words will be outweighed by the price you pay.

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Have a passion for your life together

Tue, 18 Mar 2008 16:46:30 GMT

So you two met and fell in love and resolved to spend your lives together. And you are I hope. But at what level? I'm not being funny here but serious (for once). Just sort of living together, going through the days, not really connecting isn't good enough I'm afraid. You have to have a passion for your life together. A what? a passion. Being together has to be a strong bond, a common sharing of experience, a dream-fulfilling romance that carries you both along. Love isn't for the half dead, the sound asleep ( or even the merely dozing off), the can't be bothered to make an effort anymore. You have to make the effort. You have to stay awake, in touch, in tune. You have to share dreams and goals and ambitions and plans. You have to have passion for being with each other.

Look, I know that all relationships go through peaks and troughs. I know we get complacent and even a little bored at times. but you are dedicating your life to someone else's happiness in a way, and that requires focus strength, passion, drive, enthusiasm and effort. What's that? You're not dedicating yourself to someone else's happiness? Then what are you doing? That's what a relationship is all about in a sense. And if you're not doing that, what do you think you are doing?

You have to really care, to still be in love, to want your partner to be fulfilled, successful, happy, complete.

In an ideal world you only get one crack of the whip at this ( I know that lots of people have several partners over a lifetime but I assume the aim is always to stay together for life and not to get divorced). This is your chance to have a really good strong relationship based on mutual trust, responsibility, shared happiness, drive and the pursuit of excellence. It isn't ? What is it then? It has to be if you're going to get the maximum out of it. Your partner isn't just there for someone to chat to when you get a bit fed up and want some company. they are there because they love and you them. They are there for you both to have a relationship. If that isn't as much as anyone needs as an incentive to live life to the full and have a passion, then I don't know what is.

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Never under estimate Tanzanians

Wed, 13 Feb 2008 19:59:46 GMT

An American, a Japanese, and a Tanzanian were sitting naked along the beach in Mombasa. Suddenly there was a beeping sound. The American pressed his forearm and the beeping stopped. The others looked at him questioningly. "That's my pager," he said, " I have a microchip under the skin of my arm."

A few minutes later a phone rang. The Japanese lifted his palm to his ear. When he finished he explained, "That's my mobile phone. I have a microchip in my hand.

The Tanzanian felt low-tech and inferior. He didn't know what to do to be
as impressive as the American & the Japanese. He decided to take a break in
the restroom. When he returned, he didn't realize that there was a piece of
toilet paper which got stuck and was hanging from his backside.

The others raised their eyebrows and said, "Wow! What's that?" Instead of
being embarrassed, inspiration struck his mind.
AND HERE IS WHAT HE SAID
"I'm getting a FAX"

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Life can be a bit like advertising

Sat, 29 Dec 2007 13:50:07 GMT

Someone once said that half of the money he spent on advertising was wasted but he didn't know which half. His point was of course that if you can't tell which half, then you have to keep on doing the whole lot, fully aware that not all of it will produce rewards. Life is a bit like that. Sometimes it seems so unfair. You put in loads of efforts and get nothing back. you're polite to people and everyone seems rude back.You work up a sweat and others cruise it. Well, you have to keep on doing the 100% because you don't know which bits will pay off. Your efforts will be rewarded eventually but you'll probably never know which efforts are being rewarded - or for what - and which aren't.

We tend to think we are being lucky sometimes when actually we are just being rewarded for some bit of effort long ago that we have forgotten about. We have to keep going. You can't give up on the grounds that you've had a setback or two because you don't know which setbacks are the ones which count and which ones aren't. I suppose it's like the number of frogs you have to get acquainted with before you find your princess ( or prince). Or the pile of oysters you'd have to open to find a pearl.

But whatever you do, don't lose heart because things don't seem to be panning out. Only by keeping up the effort will reward come eventually - and you'll never know from which bits comes the best reward.

Most well balanced and happy people will also tell you that sometimes you have to work at something without looking for a pay-off - apart from the immediate pay-off that we are being kept busy and thus can't get into trouble. Always looking for success, rewards, a pay-off, can be detrimental to our wellbeing when things don't pan out. Sometimes it's ok to do things just for the sheer enjoyment of doing them.

I love painting miniature water colours - tiny, tiny landscapes. Once in a while someone will come along and suggest I put them into an exhibition or sell them commercially. And everytime I do it fails miserably and give up for a while. Once the dust has settled I always go back to them and I have learnt it is a personal thing and no longer will I try to sell them or show them. they are not for profit part of my life and immensely rewarding. No, you can' see one.

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You Get What You Expect.

Fri, 14 Dec 2007 19:47:18 GMT

We often say we want many things while deep inside we doubt it will come to us. The universe doesn't give us what we want; it gives us what we expect to get. You cannot fool mother nature. She gives birth to your deepest thoughts and the principle is this: Everything happens twice - first on the inside, then on the outside. We must literally create the energy of what we want within ourselves before we can have it in a physical world.How does it feel to be wealthy? In love? In perfect health? Totally free to do anything we choose?

We must let the feeling well inside and live as though the very thing we want is the thing we have. We must feel ourselves being and enjoying the every best of life has to offer. We must think about it, talk about it and expect it every moment. We must impregnate our total being with the expectation of what we want. As the feeling grows, the day will come when we give birth to exactly what we want.

We have the ability, right and power to create whatever we want in our lives. All we have to do is see it. We can choose to see the unlimited possibilities, rich opportunities and uncharted waters. We can choose to see that doing what we want with ease, having what we want with joy and being where we want can be used for projection and perception.

When we use our eyes to project what we want into the world, we send forth the creative power of the soul's force. When we use positive perception to interpret what we see, we avoid falling prey to doom and gloom. If we can look beyond today, its challenge obstacles, we can create a better tomorrow. If we can see, it must come to be. That is the Law.

I expect all the best right here and now and I am willing to see my good.

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Have a Sense of Purpose

Tue, 30 Oct 2007 12:15:39 GMT

Deal with yourself as an individual worthy of respect and make everyone else deal with you in the same way. - Nikki Giovanni

Many of us live from day to day without a real sense of purpose. We know we want more out of life, but we can't seem to put a finger on exactly what it is. We believe our fate is due to lack of career, money or the freedom to do what we want. Actually, what we may be longing for is a personal mission. When you have a mission, you have a core passion that gives you vision. With the vision of your mission, you move gracefully through your goals.

When you have a mission, you wholeheartedly embrace a task and you remain focused until the task is done. When you have a mission, you feel valued, worthy and respectable. You manage to keep your head up and others notice you.

What is your mission? Is it teaching, healing, painting, driving? Perhaps it is building snowmen, counting pea pods or keeping others on their mission. Respect your life enough to pursue a meaningful mission. Respect yourself enough to give yourself something to do.

I am mission-minded and focused on a goal. Are you?

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Your Mate is your mirror

Mon, 22 Oct 2007 17:00:28 GMT

Many of us think we are lucky or blessed when we find just the right person to love. By now we know that nothing in life is an accident, including our selection of mate.

The people who come into our lives are a reflection of who we are. They reveal to us those things we cannot or refuse to see about ourselves. The very thing we don't like about our mate is the thing we need to change. The thing we love about the other person is a hidden, undeveloped or unrecognized asset that we have. We can only draw to us those people who are on our level of energy and development. They reflect back to us the every things we do. Most of us reject this idea. But Then most of us reject criticism, too.

We find it difficult to accept those things about us that others see. We do, however, feel completely justified when we criticize our mates. Here's a question for you: How would you know what to call what you see in your mates unless you had seen it somewhere else?

I'm looking in the mirror of self and making adjustments in me!

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Only Dead fish Swim with the Stream

Wed, 03 Oct 2007 07:10:22 GMT

Life is difficult. If it was all fluffy and easy we wouldn't be tested, tried, forged in the fire of life. We wouldn't grow or learn or change, or have a chance to rise above ourselves. If life were a series of lovely days, we'd soon get bored. If there was no rain, then there wouldn't be any feeling of great joy when it finally stopped and we couldn't go to the beach. If it was all easy we couldn't get stronger.

So be thankful it is a struggle some of the time, and recognize that only dead fish swim with the stream. For the rest of us there will be times when it's an uphill, upstream struggle. We will have to battle waterfalls, weirs and raging torrents. But we have no choice. We have to keep swimming or get swept away. And each flick of our tail, each surge of our fins makes us stronger and fitter, leaner and happier.

There is a statistic that suggests that for a lot of men ( I don't know whether this applies to women as well!), retirement is a really bad idea. Lots of them die within a relatively short time of handing in their briefcase. They have ceased to swim against the current and get swept away. Keep swimming, little fish, keep swimming.

Try to see each setback as a chance to improve. They make you stronger, not weaker. You only get burdened with as much as you can carry - although I do appreciate that at times may seem as if it's a whole lot more. And of course the struggles don't come to an end, but there are lulls in- between times - backwaters where we can rest for a while and enjoy the moment before the next obstacle gets thrown our way.

And that's what life is, what it is meant to be; a series of struggles and lulls. And whatever situation you're in now, it's going to change. So what are you in ? Lull or struggle? Rain or going to the beach? Learning or enjoying? Dead fish or healthy salmon?

Sharing what you're good at

Fri, 14 Sep 2007 19:30:39 GMT

Imagine what a harmonious world it could be if every single person, both young and old, shared a little of what he is good at doing.

We all come into this life with talents, gifts or abilities which, if we put them to use, they would be profitable to us and useful to the world. Yet, we allow ourselves to be told and we tell ourselves that we’re not good enough or that no one is interested in what we can do. Many of us spend the greater portion of our lives seeking authorization or recognition, never developing or using the goodness of the things we do naturally. If we would trust life and ourselves a little more, we would do what comes naturally, what we are good at, giving it all that we’ve got. If we would stop looking for fame and fortune we might find we are sitting on a goldmine of ideas and abilities. If we would stop blaming others and being ashamed of ourselves, there would be no way we could expect or accept anything less than the best from ourselves and for ourselves. If we could stop chasing castles in the sky and do what we can do, where we are, the world would probably appreciate it and reward us greatly.

I am willing to give to the world who I am naturally. How about you?

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Keep the moral High ground

Tue, 28 Aug 2007 21:35:12 GMT

Boy is this a simple one to say and a really difficult one to live up to? I do appreciate that it's a tough one, but I know you can do it. It takes a simple shift of vision, from being the sort of person who acts in a certain way to being a different sort of person who acts in a different sort of way. Look no matter how rough it gets you are never going to take revenge, act badly, be very very angry, hurt anyone, act without thinking, act rashly or be aggressive.

That's it, the bottom line. You're going to maintain the moral high ground at all times. You're going to behave honestly, decently, kindly, forgivingly, nicely (whatever that means) no matter what the provocation, no matter what the challenge thrown at you. No matter how unfairly they behave, how badly they behave, you'll not retaliate in like kind. You'll carry on being good and civilized and morally irreproachable. Your manners will be impeccable, your language moderated and dignified. There is nothing you can do or say that'll make you deviate from this line.

Yes, I know it's difficult at times. I know when the rest of the world are behaving appallingly, and you have to carry on taking it on the chin without giving in to your desire to floor them with a savage word, it's really really tough. When people are being horrid to you it's natural to want to get your own back and lash out. Don't. Once the rough time has passed. you'll be so proud of yourself for keeping the moral high ground, that it will taste a thousand times better than revenge ever would.

I know revenge is tempting, but you won't go there. Not now, not ever. Why? Because if you'll be sinking to their level, you'll be at one with beasts instead of the angels, because it demeans you and cheapens you, because you'll regret it and lastly because if you do, then you're no 'Rules player'. Revenge is for losers. Taking and keeping the moral high ground is the only way to be. It doesn't mean that you're a pushover or a wimp. It just means that any action you do take will be honest , dignified and clean.

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A Solution to your Problems

Tue, 21 Aug 2007 15:05:12 GMT

You can't solve the problem because you don't know what it is. - A Course in Miracles

Does it ever seem that as soon as you solve one crisis, another pops up? What about the way you think about the challenges of life? Do you think it's money, or the lack of it? When you get the money together, the kids or maybe the spouse act up. As soon as they calm down, it's the job or the car or the pipes in the basement.

You can spend the better part of your life putting out little bushfires with your kettle without ever realising there is a forest fire burning in your life.

By now you should have realized you cannot solve the problems in your life. No matter how hard you try, you cannot do it. Want to know why? It is because you think that you are in control when you really aren't. There is a divine source, a powerful force, a perfect order that controls everything. When you recognize it , acknowledge it and surrender to it, you won't have to struggle to solve problems. There won't be any.

The universe will perfect that which concerns me when I surrender control.

Don't Live In The Future

Sat, 11 Aug 2007 22:10:33 GMT

Blimey, if you thought the previous post was tough, try this one...But the future is where it's all going to happen, I hear you cry. The future is where I'm going to be successful, happy, rich, beautiful, famous, in love, surrounded by friends, surrounded by the finest wine money can buy. Yep, those might be the plans or dreams or whatever. But again, this is here and now is where it is actually at. This is the moment you've been waiting for all your life. This is the moment you must appreciate without all those other things you long for. Look, longing really is the sweetest thing. Having those dreams is really brilliant. Don't let anyone ever tell you dreaming is a bad thing. But appreciate that this is the you right now that is doing the dreaming. Enjoy the wishing and the longing. Enjoy being alive and having the strength and vitality to do all that dreaming.

Living in the moment doesn't mean throwing away all your responsibilities and cares; it doesn't mean taking off and being a total pleasure seeker; it doesn't mean sitting cross-legged and breathing deeply - although all and any of these things is fine if you want. It just means taking a moment or two every now and then to appreciate being alive and to aim to act like today matters and live life to the full, right here, right now.

Forget bigger and better and richer and thinner. The key is to appreciate what we've got right now and yet still dream and plan. That way we'll be a little happier now than if we're constantly looking to the future where happiness apparently lies.

And don't go thinking it's all right for me. It's not. I too need to certainly get fitter, earn more quid, get more stuff (and we all love stuff). But I also value the way that I am and appreciate what I've got now because - and this is the secret - it's real. The me now is the real me, the future one isn't yet born and may not happen. And the stuff I have now is at least real, tangible, solid.

Dreams are great but reality is fine too!

Don't Dwell On The Past

Tue, 07 Aug 2007 19:25:11 GMT

Whatever the past was, it's gone. There is nothing you can do to change anything that has gone before and so you must turn your attention to the here and now. It is hard to resist the allure of dwelling on what has gone before. But if you want to be successful in your life, you have to turn your attention to what is happening for you right now. You might be tempted to dwell on the past because it was awful or because it was wonderful. Either way, you have to leave it behind because the only way to live is in the present.

Everyday we wake up is a fresh start and we can make of it what we want, write what we want on that blank canvas. Keeping that enthusiasm going can be tough - a bit like trying to exercise. The first few times are impossibly hard but if you persevere, then one day you find that you are jogging, walking, swimming without conscious effort. But getting going is really tough and requires immense powers of concentration, enthusiasm, dedication and perseverance to keep at it.

Try to see the past as a room separate from the one you leave in now. You can go in there but you don't live there anymore. You can go visit but it isn't home anymore. Home is here now. Each second of this present is precious. Don't waste any drops of precious time by spending too much time in 'that old room'. Don't miss what is happening now because you were busy looking back, or later you'll be busy looking back at this time and wondering why you wasted it.

Live here, live now, live this moment. Don't dwell on the past as it's gone!

Secret Lovers

Fri, 27 Jul 2007 20:20:26 GMT

Here we are, the two of us together
Takin’ this crazy chance to be all alone
We both know that we should not be together
‘Cause if we’re found out, it could mess up
Both our happy homes

I hate to think about us all meeting up together
‘Cause as soon as I look at you it will show on my face, yeah
Then they’ll know that we’ve been loving each other
We can’t let ‘em know, no, no, no
We can’t leave a trace

Secret lovers, yeah, that’s what we are
We should not be together
But we can’t let go, no, no
‘Cause we love each other so

Sittin’ at home, I do nothin’ all day
But I think about you and hope that you’re okay
Hopin’ you’ll call before anyone gets home
I wait anxiously alone by the phone

How could something so wrong be so right
I wish we didn’t have to keep our love out of sight, yeah
Living two lives just ain’t easy at all
But we gotta hang on in there or fall

You and me, are we friends
Is this cool or do we care
Can they tell what’s in our minds
Maybe they’ve had secret loves all of the time

In the middle of making love we notice the time
We both get nervous ‘cause it’s way after nine
Even though we hate it, we know it’s time that we go
We gotta be careful so that no one will know

Secret lovers, yeah, that’s what we are
Trying so hard to hide the way we feel
‘Cause we both belong to someone else
But we can’t let go
‘Cause what we feel is, oh, so real
So real, so real, so real, so real

I Need Love

Wed, 25 Jul 2007 09:55:39 GMT

When I'm alone in my room sometimes I stare at the wall
and in the back of my mind I hear my conscience call
Telling me I need a girl who's as sweet as a dove
for the first time in my life, I see I need love
There I was giggling about the games
that I had played with many hearts, and I'm not saying no names
Then the thought occurred, tear drops made my eyes burn
as I said to myself look what you've done to her
I can feel it inside, I can't explain how it feels
all I know is that I'll never dish another raw deal
Playing make believe pretending that I'm true
holding in my laugh as I say that I love you
Saying am kissing you on the ear
whispering I love you and I'll always be here
Although I often reminisce I can't believe that I found
a desire for true love floating around
Inside my soul because my soul is cold
one half of me deserves to be this way till I'm old
But the other half needs affection and joy
and the warmth that is created by a girl and a boy

Romance sheer delight how sweet
I gotta find me a girl to make my life complete
You can scratch my back, we'll get cozy and huddle
I'll lay down my jacket so you can walk over a puddle
I'll give you a rose, pull out your chair before we eat
kiss you on the cheek and say ooh girl you're so sweet
It's deja vu whenever I'm with you
I could go on forever telling you what I do
But where you at you're neither here or there
I swear I can't find you anywhere
Damn sure you ain't in my closet, or under my rug
this love search is really making me bug
And if you know who you are why don't you make yourself seen
take the chance with my love and you'll find out what I mean
Fantasy's can run but they can't hide
and when I find you I'm gonna pour all my love inside

I wanna kiss you hold you never scold you just love you
suck on you neck, caress you and rub you
Grind moan and never be alone
if you're not standing next to me you're on the phone
Can't you hear it in my voice, I need love bad
I've got money but love's something I've never had
I need your ruby red lips sweet face and all
I love you more than a man who's 10 feet tall
I'd watch the sunrise in your eyes
we're so in love when we hug we become paralyzed
Our bodies explode in ecstasy unreal
you're as soft as a pillow and I'm as hard as steel
It's like a dream land, I can't lie I never been there
maybe this is an experience that me and you can share
Clean and unsoiled yet sweaty and wet
I swear to you this is something that I'll never forget

See what I mean I've changed I'm no longer
a play boy on the run I need something that's stronger
Friendship, trust honor respect admiration
this whole experience has been such a revelation
It's taught me love and how to be a real man
to always be considerate and do all I can
Protect you you're my lady and you mean so much
my body tingles all over from the slightest touch
Of your hand and understand I'll be frozen in time
till we meet face to face and you tell me you're mine
If I find you girl I swear I'll be a good man
I'm not gonna leave it in destiny's hands
I can't sit and wait for my princess to arrive
I gotta struggle and fight to keep my dream alive
I'll search the whole world for that special girl
when I finally find you watch our love unfurl

Girl, listen to me
When I'll be sitting in my room all alone, staring at the wall
fantasies, they go through my mind
And I've come to realize that I need true love
and if you wanna give it to me girl make yourself seen
I'll be waiting
I love you

Love Enough To Let Go

Fri, 20 Jul 2007 19:06:52 GMT

You have to love enough to let go.

There are times when loving someone means we must let them go. It is not healthy or productive to remain in a relationship that makes us happy sometimes, sad most of the time. Yet we hang on. We hang on believing that something bad will happen to the person if we let him or her go. That's our ego telling us what we want to hear. We hang on in fear that no one else will love them or us the way we want to be loved. This time the ego is telling us that we are not good enough. We hang on because we don't know who or what may come along. We believe there is a lack of available mates. We have on wishing, hoping, trying to make it work - afraid it will not. When a relationship is over, it is over; but the love can live on. Loving someone means you want them to be happy. If that person can be happy without you, love enough to let go.

I know when to let go, do you?

A New Beginning

Tue, 17 Jul 2007 08:55:28 GMT

You cannot belong to anyone else, until you belong to yourself. [Pearl Bailey]

Finding and beginning a new relationship can be difficult. It is particularly difficult when we are carrying baggage from past relationships. We are told that it is not good to carry past relationships into the current ones. You know that! But how do you free yourself from that which is part of you? Yet you can unpack the baggage. You can take a look at the pain, guilt, fear. You can look it dead in the face and see what it is, for what it is - the past. It is over. Without shame, without blame, you must look at what happened and know it does not have to happen again. it is only when you refuse to release, that you'll have experiences added to your baggage collection.

There is another point we often forget when moving into a new relationship: No matter how painful the past has been, you made it through.

Today, I'm unpacking!

Love Me For A Reason

Sat, 14 Jul 2007 13:33:44 GMT

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

Wouldn't it be wonderful if our first love could be our one and only love, forever and ever, amen? Well, surely you know by now that life is not like that. People come and go in our lives, taking a little piece of our heart with them. As difficult or painful as it may be, that is exactly what they should do. We have more than enough love to share and spare, and we should give it freely. When we love for a reason it feels good to give love, because we get what we give. When we have a seasonal love, it is a whirlwind love, preparing us for something better. When those very special people come into our lives, we can and do love them forever. Loving is not what causes our emotional damage, it is the attempt to throw people out of our hearts and minds. When we love reasonably for the season we are in, we will undoubtedly enjoy a life-time of loving

To all my beloved friends, take it or leave it, I know why you are in my life and I love you for that reason.

Keisha, My Broken Hearted Woman

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 21:14:29 GMT

Humans can be tough creatures. Attack my health, and I can recover. Attack my job or finances, and I can find a way to pull through. Attack my pride and I grow thicker skin.

But wound my heart, and you leave me devastated.

Few things in this world hurt like a broken heart. It's the blow that you never see coming: a longtime friend turns their back on you. Someone you love rejects you. Somebody you've let into the deepest, most private corners of your heart says or does something to hurt you where you're most vulnerable.

Maybe somebody hurt you out of spite, and you're reeling from the betrayal. Or maybe a heart-wrenching breakup or the loss of a loved one has you feeling empty and alone.

Painful as it is, the broken heart is here to stay. It's part of being human, and it's a sometimes bitter reminder of how important our relationships are to us. Our need to connect with other people is hardwired into us. And that's the heart of the problem--we're forming relationships with people, who sometimes make mistakes, act cruelly, or just go away.

So is the solution to avoid other people altogether, to harden our hearts against relationships that might disappoint or hurt us? Are we willing to throw out the joy that relationships can bring to avoid the possibility of pain down the road? Is it possible to experience love without the fear of loss and hurt, without the fear that we'll be let down in the end? Can we find love that doesn't have strings attached?

That's the heart of the question, isn't it? So what's the answer?

Well, Keisha my broken hearted woman i haven't got any answer to repairing your broken heart, however, being such a nice friend i 'ope the longer we remain friends time will heal the wounds and you'll definitely find someone who will tresure you. Don't give up just yet as good things come to those who wait!

Contentment Is A High Aim

Thu, 05 Jul 2007 20:20:53 GMT

If you ask a lot of people what they want in life, they say, 'Oh, just to be happy, I guess'.

Happiness is such an illusory thing that spending too much time chasing it is not very worthwhile. Happiness is one end of a spectrum - misery being the other end. It is a state of extreme, just as misery represents the other end. If you look back at the times in your life when you've been happy - or thought you might have been - I'll bet there were other extreme feelings involved.

People think they'll be happy on holiday when they mean relaxed or stimulated or freed from their cares - and indeed they are. Aiming for happiness is one of those' bigger is best' things. You're never going to make it because there is no top end limit. You just have to go on aiming for even bigger all the time. Instead of aiming for happy, it's better to aim for contentment.

This applies especially to relationships - the quest to find Mr or Mrs Right and in what happens when you do. Most of us want to fall madly head-over heals in Love. Big chemistry - fireworks, butterflies, unbelievable feelings. It's is brilliant. It's extreme. But that intensity can't and won't last. You have to go back to reality sometime. You have to get on with life. No one can live at that intensity, that lofty altitude all the time. Contentment is what you hope for after the elation has worn off and you settle back into a relaxed and happy simplicity. In fact, contentment is the worthier aim, because it lasts.

And so if you find you are with somebody where there is no big firework display, palpitations and extreme of feelings but there is a baseline contentment and warmth and love - be happy with that.

Photo Album: Posters

Tue, 30 Oct 2007 10:12:11 GMT

Posters

Photo Album: Blog Images

Thu, 24 May 2007 18:37:43 GMT

Blog Images

Custom List: My Movie Library

Sat, 03 May 2008 13:44:17 GMT

My Movie Library

Bringing Down The House
When a lonely guy (Martin) meets a woman (Latifah) on the Internet who happens to be in prison, she breaks out to be with him, and proceeds to wreak havoc on his middle-class life
Waist Deep
An ex-convict (Tyrese) gets tangled up with a gang after his car is hijacked with his son inside.
The Cave
Bloodthirsty creatures await a pack of divers who become trapped in an underwater cave network.
Trois 2: Pandoras Box
Mia DuBois (Calhoun) is a walking cliché--a successful therapist with an unsuccessful marriage. Her husband, Victor (St. John), is more interested in working on his laptop than on her. So she is very receptive to hearing about the wild sex life ....
Ride Or Die
Police say that promising rapper Benjamin committed suicide. His old friend private investigator Rad McCrae thinks otherwise. Aided by his partner Lisa (Vivica A. Fox) Rad who becomes convinced that Benjamin (played by Jadakiss) was murdered seek
Two Can Play That Game
Shante believes she has found the perfect boyfriend until she spots him in a nightclub with another woman... This forces Shante to launch her 'ten day plan' which is carefully designed to make him come crawling back...
In Her Line Of Fire
When the Vice President's plane goes down near a remote South American island, he is kidnapped by rebel forces and held for ransom. It is up to his female Secret Service agent and a press secretary to infiltrate the camp and save him.
Step Up
Everyone deserves a chance to follow their dreams, but some people only get one shot. Tyler Gage is a rebel from the wrong side of Baltimore¹s tracks and the only thing that stands between him and an unfulfilled life are his dreams .....
Motives
There is only loyalty or betrayal. Nothing in between.
Night at The Museum
A newly recruited night security guard at the Museum of Natural History discovers that an ancient curse causes the animals and exhibits on display to come to life and wreak havoc.
The Associate
Whoopi Goldberg stars in this comedy about making it on Wall Street. Prejudices are hard to break and Goldberg's character quickly learns that in order for people to take her seriously she has to work for an older white man or be one.
Beauty shop
Gina is a hairstylist who opens up a beauty shop full of employees and customers more interested in speaking their minds than getting a cut.
The Brothers
"The Brothers" traces the hilarious journey of four African-American men as they take on love, sex, friendship and two of life's most terrifying prospects honesty and commitment.
Dairy Of a Mad Black woman
Charles, an attorney and Helen, the devoted wife, seem to have everything, money a beautifully mansion—the American Dream. But just as Helen prepares to celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary her life takes a twist
Casino Royale
In his first mission, James Bond must stop Le Chiffre, a banker to the world's terrorist organizations, from winning a high-stakes poker tournament at Casino Royale in Montenegro.
Motives 2 [Retribution]
It’s been three years since Emery Simms was wrongfully imprisoned for a murder he didn’t commit. Emery’s best friend Brandon (Blakemore) and ex-wife Connie (Fox) are now married, running a successful restaurant and nightclub in Atlanta. Their lives change
Love Don't Cost A Thing
Alvin is a likeable outcast who just wants to be cool. When Paris wrecks her mother's car he offers to fix it for her if she will appear to all his friends as his date...
Brown Sugar
Dre and Sidney have been best friends since they were ten years old. When Dre proposes to his girlfriend, Reese, Sidney suddenly feels an attraction to Dre...
Deja' Vu
Called in to recover evidence in the aftermath of a horrific explosion on a New Orleans ferry, Federal agent Doug Carlin (Washington) gets pulled away from the scene and taken to a top-secret government lab that uses a time-shifting surveillance device ...
The Marine
A group of diamond thieves on the run kidnap the wife of a recently discharged marine who goes on a chase through the South Carolinian wilderness to retrieve her.
Click
A workaholic architect finds a universal remote that allows him to fast-forward and rewind to different parts of his life. Complications arise when the remote starts to overrule his choices.
Employee of the month
When he hears that the new female employee digs ambitious men who are the store employee of the month, a slacker gets his act together but finds himself in competition with his rival, an ambitious co-worker.
The Good Sheperd
Matt Damon, Angelina Jolie and Robert De Niro star in this powerful thriller about the birth of the CIA. Edward Wilson (Damon) believes in America, and will sacrifice everything he loves to protect it.
Seclusion
A congressman's adulterous trip to a secluded mountain cabn is spoiled when his mistress mysteriously disappears and his wife arrives.
RV
Bob Munro and his dysfunctional family rent an RV for a road trip to the Colorado Rockies, where they ultimately have to contend with a bizarre community of campers.
Flags of our fathers
The life stories of the six men who raised the flag at The Battle of Iwo Jima, a turning point in WWII.
Freedom Writers
A young teacher (Swank) inspires her class of at-risk students to learn tolerance, apply themselves, and pursue education beyond high school.
Love and Basketball
From the playground to the pro leagues, Monica and Qunicy taught each other how to play the game. Now, their commitment to the sport will force them to make a choice between each other and the game...between family and team...between "Love & Basketball."
The Decent
A caving expedition goes horribly wrong, as the explorers become trapped and ultimately pursued by a strange breed of predators.
The Messengers
An ominous darkness invades a seemingly serene sunflower farm in North Dakota, and the Solomon family is torn apart by suspicion, mayhem and murder.
The Da Vinci Code
A murder inside the Louvre and clues in Da Vinci paintings lead to the discovery of a religious mystery protected by a secret society for two thousand years -- which could shake the foundations of Christianity.
Smoking Aces
A dying mob boss takes out a $1 million contract on the life of his former protégé, a Vegas magician turned gangster who has agreed to testify against the mob. The FBI attempts to protect their key witness as an array of hit men and women descend on Lake T
Stranger Than Fiction
Harold Crick is an every day character whose life is suddenly turned upside down when a narration begins in his head. His narrator informs him of everything that is going to happen, from his work, to his home-life, to following in love, to his death...
White Chicks
Two disgraced FBI agents go way undercover in an effort to protect hotel heiresses the Wilson Sisters from a kidnapping plot.
Hot Fuzz
Nicholas Angel is a top London police officer. He is so good at his job that he's making the others look bad so they get together and have him relocated to deepest darkest Somerset.
The Break-up
The Break Up starts where most romantic comedies end: after Gary (Vince Vaughn) and Brooke (Jennifer Aniston) have met, fallen in love, and moved in to start their happily-ever-after, but they soon begin to drive each other crazy.
Little Man
In the hilarious comedy Little Man, Shawn Wayans plays a man so anxious to become a father that he mistakes a short-statured, baby-faced criminal on the run ...
Miami Vice
Ricardo Tubbs (Jamie Foxx) is urbane and dead smart. He lives with Bronx born intel analys Trudy (Naomie Harris), as he works undercover transporting drug leads into South Florida to identify a group of responsible for three murders.
Codename The Cleaner
The laughs fly like bullets in this action comedy about a man with amnesia who can't remember whether he's a super spy...or a janitor. Jake Rogers (Cedric the Entertainer) just woke up in a hotel room next to a dead CIA agent and a briefcase full of money.
The Last King Of Scotland
In an incredible twist of fate, a Scottish doctor (James McAvoy) on a Ugandan medical mission becomes irreversibly entangled with one of the worlds most barbaric figures: Idi Amin (Forest Whitaker).
Slow Burn
A district attorney (Ray Liotta) is involved in a 24-hour showdown with a gang leader (LL Cool J) and is, at the same time, being manipulated by an attractive assistant district attorney (Jolene Blalock) and a cryptic stranger.
Blood Diamond
A fisherman, a smuggler, and a syndicate of businessmen match wits over the possession of a priceless diamond.
License To Wed
A young couple are planning their wedding when their vicar, Frank decides to put them through some tests to ensure their love is strong enough to survive marriage. The young groom is suspicious of the vicars proposals...
Bourne Ultimatum
Bourne tries to unravel every last detail of his identity whilst pursued by a government agent following a shootout in Moscow. Will he at last remember all that he has forgotten?
Juno
Juno MacGuff, is 16 and pregnant, but “Juno” could not be further from the kind of hand-wringing, moralizing melodrama that such a condition might suggest.It’s not that Juno treats her pregnancy as a joke, she can’t help finding humor in it.

Custom List: Kool Urban Trax

Wed, 30 Jan 2008 14:49:29 GMT

Kool Urban Trax

Don't matter
Akon [Konvicted]
Anonymous
Bobby Valentino Ft Timbaland [Single]
Lost Without You
Robin Thicke [The Evolution Of Robin Thicke..]
Like This
Kelly Rowland [Ms. Kelly]
Umbrella
Rihanna [Good Girl Gone Bad]
Same Girl
R.Kelly Ft Usher [Double Up]
Real Girl
Mutya Buena [Mutya Buena]
Upgrade U
Beyonce Ft Jayz [B'Day Deluxe Ed.]
Give it To me
Timbaland ft Nelly furtado [ Timbaland Presents Shock Wave]
Say It Right
Nelly Furtado ft Timbaland [Loose]
Promiscuous
Nelly Furtado [Loose Album]
If It's Lovin' That You Want
Rihanna [A Girl Lke Me]
We Belong Together
Maria Carey [Emancipation of Mimi album]
Ice Box
Omarion [21 Album]
Be Without You [Single] [Enhanced] [Import]
Mary J Blige [ The Breakthrough]
Do without My Love
Nathan [Masterpiece album]
What Goes around...Comes Around
Justin Timberlake [Futuresex/LoveSound]
Hips Don't Lie
Shakira Ft Wyclef Jean [Oral Fixation]
We Ride [I See The Future]
Mary J Blige [Reflections- A Retrospective]
How Can I Tell Her
Freddie Jackson [Transitions]
I Wanna Love You: Parental Advisory [Single]
Akon Ft Snoop Dogg [Konvicted]
Hate that I Love You (Good Girl Gone Bad)
Artist: Rihanna ft Ne Yo Genre: R&B Released 04 June 2007
Work (Freemasons radio edit) - [Single]
Artist: Kelly Rowland Genre: Pop Released: 18 January 2008
Apologize - [Single]
Artist: One Republic ft. Timbaland: Genre: Rock and released 12 March 2007
Walk Away ( Remember me)- [single]
Artist: Paul DeAnda Ft The Dey Released: 08 december 2006 by Arista Records Genre: Pop

Custom List: Useful WebLinks

Mon, 29 Oct 2007 18:59:54 GMT

Useful WebLinks

Chartered Institute of Marketing
This is the world’s leading professional body for marketing,of which i'm a member.
Halifax Bank of Scotland
Mortgage lender
NatWest
Personal banking
Yahoo
World's leading provider of free webmail and a host of other web services.
The New Vision
Uganda's leading daily,a pro-government news service.
Amazon
The best online store for music, dvds and books
BBC
News stories from England and around the world.
Arsenal FC
News about my English Premier League football team,Arsenal Football Club.
Google
The world's best search engine.
Cable News Network [CNN]
The world's leading channel for breaking news.
Mintel
Mintel is a global supplier of consumer, media and market research. For more than 35 years, their wide-ranging products have provided unique insights that have a direct impact on their clients' success.